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When you're talking with a girl you've just met or don't know very well, you may wonder where to begin. You want to spark a conversation or at least keep it going! Fortunately, with a bunch of interesting topics, you'll always feel confident with your conversation skills. Check out the list below to get started.

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Everyday life

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  1. These give her a chance to make small talk and feel comfortable before you talk about more serious or personal subjects. For instance, instead of asking, "How are you?" try a more detailed question like:[1]
    • "What do you like to do to unwind?"
    • "What's the best part of your day?"
    • "Are you an early bird or a night owl?"
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2

Her hobbies and passions

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  1. Most people enjoy talking about themselves! To make simple questions a little more interesting, try to be specific. For instance, ask:[2]
    • "Do you have any hidden talents?"
    • "What hobby would you learn if you could totally master it?"
    • "What activities or sports make you super competitive?"
    • "Do you play an instrument or dance?"
    • Reader Poll: We asked 52 readers, and 76% agreed that when you're trying to get to know a girl better, asking about her hobbies and passions is the best move. Take Poll.
5

Would you rather?

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Quirky questions

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  1. You'll break the ice if you're just getting to know each other and it's a fun way to get the conversation rolling. You might ask unique questions that lead to a serious discussion or ask silly things that just lighten the mood. For instance, ask:[7]
    • "What's the best thing you've ever found at a thrift store or garage sale?"
    • "What's the most unhealthy thing you do on a regular basis?"
    • "What's an ice cream flavor that you can't stand?"
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Pets and animals

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  1. Talk about a funny story or something that made you laugh. You might feel pressure to have a good conversation, but joking around can relieve that tension. Tell her a joke, be a little goofy, or ask her about things that she finds funny. You could ask:[10]
    • "Which person always makes you laugh?"
    • "What's the worst joke you've ever heard?"
    • "What's the funniest thing that's ever happened to you?"
    • Reader Poll: We asked 213 wikiHow readers who've struggled with conversation, and 64% of them agreed the best way topic is something positive. [Take Poll]
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Childhood

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  1. This is a great way for her to decide where the conversation goes—she could share a funny anecdote, reveal an important memory, or tell you about a sad event that shaped her life. Get her talking by asking a question like:[12]
    • "Do you think your childhood was happier than most people's?"
    • "What did you want to be when you were 5 years old?"
    • "What was the most embarrassing thing that happened to you when you were a kid?"
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Family and friends

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John Keegan
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This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Jessica Gibson. John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 784,888 times.
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